When Your Are In The Wrong Mindset For Hygge

So, you have had a blooming awful day. Your tired, your angry, you don’t want to see another living soul. May the Lord have mercy on whoever holds the door open for you. You get home, tearing off your shoes and socks. The desperation to get hygge fills you with tears, enthusiastic to fall. Now more than ever you need to get hygge’d up to the eyeballs. Sorry, what did you say? You’re struggling to get hygge? Of course, you are, you are in completely the wrong state of mind to achieve hygge.

As far as I know there is no Danish word for the opposite of hygge but I imagine, if there was it would probably be described as: full to the brim with emotion and unable to stop thinking about the event or circumstance which caused them. Humans do not like to be unhappy and so when we are we have two choices. We either grab our nearest i-don’tknowallthedevicesnames and distract ourselves with meaningless celebrity drivel or we decide to try and analyse the events leading up to this feeling and try and route our way to the source. Often, we don’t achieve this and make ourselves feel worse repeatedly with every single person we rant to. We know we can’t get hygge if we are distracted and revisiting the events of the day over and over doesn’t give us much room to be present in the moment. This means it is almost impossible to get hygge when one is feeling this way. ‘But hygge is exactly what I need to feel better’ you say? What a pickle! If only there was something you could do!

Luckily there are several things you can do on the least hygge of days to hygge up your life!

Why not call a friend and see if you can go over to their house and visit? When you need to rant you need to rant but consider this…each time you rant and release emotion you project the negativity into your home and living space. This subconsciously permeates into your mind which, on other days when you are happy, reminds you of your unhappiness and can actually bring you down. Have you got one piece of furniture or ornamental item that you can’t stand but don’t know why? It’s probably because in the past during emotional upset you found yourself staring at that item. Penetrating it with your emotions. If you visit a friend’s house to rant, you can not only get it all out but you can get it all out in their environment. It sounds a little immoral given what has previously been stated however as this energy is not connected to your friend psychologically it will not poison their living space. Like a married couple may wish to keep their bed sacred, a hygge-ster may wish to keep their home sacred as well.

If that doesn’t work out why not try something to calm yourself but totally unrelated to your version of hygge. For some that could be a work out or a shower. For others it could be a drive or cleaning. Find an activity to occupy your current thoughts without even attempting hygge. The last thing you want to happen is try getting your hygge on when you’re in a bad place and losing the hygge vibe all together. You want your activity to require your mind to be present. That way you do something productive, you don’t have time to sit around and feel bad, you can’t replay the events of the day over and over because you are concentrating on something else and you can do it all alone. No excuses!

Something else that makes you feel pretty good about yourself pretty quickly is the phone call to a happy friend, here me out though, it’s not what you think. Instead of calling your friend to rehash he gruesome details that is your life, mention nothing about it at all. Ask your friend how they are and what is going on with them and really listen. Often, we can shut off a little when people talk about their own lives that don’t involve us and so doing this is something that needs concentration. Let the phone call go on a while, really let them talk. Engage with them and ask questions, really listening to their feelings. At some point during the phone call you will have matched their vibrational frequency and feel much happier. If they ask what is going on with you tell them there isn’t much and we will talk about you next time. The results are really pleasing and your friend feels great afterward too.

Hygge is memory and sensory based. If you associate negativity with hygge it won’t be a pleasant experience. It won’t be hygge any more but something else entirely. Try to prevent that from avoiding hygge at times of high emotion and negativity. Try these suggestions and others you may hear and discover and see what works best for you. You can be hygge afterward when you feel much better.

B*tch don’t kill my hygge.

Freja


And just in case you are new to my blog or hygge here is a link to a video I made!